upping the ante

This blog was inspired by one of the blogs that I was following, Wedding For Two. In Sex in the City (the movie), Carrie said to Big, that her dress "upped in ante". What was supposed to be a simple intimate wedding turned out to be one for show. Well, we all know how that turned out.

This got me thinking, well, I have always known that I'll have a fabulous dress on my wedding. So it wasn't the reason for upping the ante. What did it for me was the month. I am a June bride. Getting married on the wedding month, I had the thinking that mine had to be really really nice for it to stand out from the other weddings. Suddenly I had the urge to get just the best suppliers even though their rates are waay above our budget, invite guests who really weren't part of our priority just so they'd be pleased that they were invited, and make up the need for other favors that are really just add-ons in a wedding. Its like I wanted to comply with the requirements of a magazine bride. Upon reading the blog entry from Wedding For Two, I realized I was starting to lose sight of what is essential. Just because ours was a June wedding, I was suddenly trying to make it special for them and not for me. It was turning into the word that I have been trying to avoid since the start of the whole wedding preps - GRAND. Good thing I was dehypnotized from all the wedding porn that early.

I want my wedding to be fun, heartfelt and personal. I don't want my wedding to be another one of those weddings for show and to get so out of control that my groom will be driving away in a Limo. So now I'm trying to stand my ground on the number of guestlists, with choosing the right suppliers, those who are low-key but delivers what WE want, and just saying NO to those things that aren't really important to us.

But yes, we're still kinda upping the ante when it comes to our taste levels, it has become more stylish and more classy, but we're staying within budget and going for our priorities. It will still be the same fun, heartfelt and personal wedding and hopefully, still very affordable :)